Amongst Ourselves: A Self-Help Guide to Living with Dissociative Identity Disorder

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Amongst Ourselves is a self-help guide written expressly for individuals with DID/MPD—and the first to provide readers with the practical steps they can take to cope with the condition and emerge with greater self-awareness and the skills to live a rich and rewarding life.

Authors Tracy Alderman and Karen Marshall explain what DID is and provide a clear account of its underlying causes and symptoms. They describe what it’s like to live with DID and make practical suggestions for coming to terms with the condition, managing the confusion and self-destructive behaviors that often accompany it, and deciding to “come out” to others.

Karen lends a unique and immensely important perspective, in that she is able to speak as both a therapist and as an individual with DID. Through her insights, as well as guided exercises throughout the text, readers learn: New skills and strategies to help them manage living with DID An appreciation for DID’s positive aspects What to expect from therapy and available treatment options How to become more aware of themselves and the ways in which DID affects their lives

Product Details

  • Paperback: 240 pages
  • Publisher: New Harbinger Publications; 1st edition (June 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1572241225
  • ISBN-13: 978-1572241220
  • Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6 x 0.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces

Customer Reviews

Validating and Practical Guide for Multiples and Those Who Love Them

53 people found this helpful.
 on July 5, 2006
By Mrs. 13
I was recently diagnosed with DID after years and years of struggling with my system and believing that I was quite literally insane and needed to be locked away… For years I have been diagnosed as having Major Depression, bipolar disorder, dysthymia (sp?), PTSD, etc… I had a major, disruptive depressive episode five months ago and I’m just now partially recovering. I was fortunate enough to find an intelligent, articulate, and warm therapist that I trusted enough to tell the secret that I’ve been holding for 20 years. I told her about The People Who Live Behind My Eyes, Joan, Jessica, Erica with a “c”, Michael, Little Kara, Adarin (pronounced a-duh-reen), and Mmemnon. She lent me Amongst Ourselves and suggested that I read it and that we use it in therapy.

Takes the "spookiness" out of DID

86 people found this helpful.
 on June 11, 2000
By Judith Powelson
I am astounded by the last reviewer’ comments (from Fresno, California), and sincerely hope he is not a therapist himself who treats DID clients. Who is more credible: a successful professional who understands DID first-hand, or a researcher with second-hand knowledge at best? The effectiveness of therapy should be measured by the achievements of the client, not the therapist. The authors do not discount peer-reviewed DID literature, and urge DID therapists to stay abreast in this rapidly changing field.


35 people found this helpful.
 on September 14, 2004
I bought this book with two others. When I got it, I didn’t think I was going to like it very much. However, I really enjoyed this book and refer to it often. I much prefer this book to “Stranger in the Mirror”. This book explains beautifully the challanges of DID, what it is, and how to cope in a very simple and underestand manner. This book is very clear and full of short personal experiences. I felt that the authors both really understand the DID experience. The one draw back which I think is very crucial to our recovery is the authors own views regarding therapy and therapists which I believe should remain their opinions and not be stated in the book. If I did not have an outstanding therapist, I would be very insecure about getting one after their remarks. The other down side of this book is that I felt that not enough attention is stated regarding integration. I felt as if the author was resigned to keeping the alters as part of her family. That was very disturbing. All in all, I really liked the book because of the information that was presented was clear and simple to follow. I will use this book constantly as a vital reference and just leave what doesn’t work for me. I would recommend this book highly.

Excellent concise readable and understandable. Get it.

27 people found this helpful.
 on October 2, 1999
We were diagnosed with DID earlier this year following hospitalisation. It was confusing, frightening and outwith the realms of our experience to understand many things which have led to us being, well, us. This book covers everything you need to know about DID in a concise but readable and understandable way. Any “fancy language” is explained and there are examples to help identify with your own experiences as well as clearly laid out sections for family members and coming out as multiple. This book is especially good for friends and family as it explains to them in clear language what DID is and the prejudicial misconceptions about it. This is an excellent book that every DID family or anyone who has a DID friend or family member should own. Buy it – its that simple.

Start your journey here…

28 people found this helpful.
 on July 9, 2000
By Debbie Thompson
I read this book and it has helped me so much. I do not have DID, but am working with a woman I sponsor in a 12 step program. Our relationship has broadened to include (necessarily) her DID and self harm issues. This book is a very good place to start if you are just learning of your diagnosis, or someone you love is struggling with it. It is written in simple language, and the exercises are really beneficial. My “baby” and I have done a few so far and plan to do more. It is reassuring to her that there are others out there who not only suffer from DID, but have survived and conquered daily living with this disorder. I cannot recommend this book enough as a common sense, straightforward entry level into the world of DID. Thank you, Karen & Tracy, for your courage and your willingness to share your experience with us. You have helped more than you could know.!

An honest and helpful approach

22 people found this helpful.
 on September 1, 1999
This book is most helpful for someone who lives with or loves a multiple…not necessarily someone who wants to “heal” a multiple. The descriptions of the messes the little ones make, the patience to guide some of the personalities into healthy living and eating, the world’s perception of multiples as crazy (which they’re not), Rosalie the wise….this is a warm and funny and loving book.

An incredible gift to anyone whose life is touched by DID.

19 people found this helpful.
 on November 23, 1998
When I first began my process of dealing with my being DID, I read everything I could find on the disorder. But nothing I read, until this book, gave me insight into how to manage my life. This book helps me live my life better each and everyday. I hope that for others with this disorder, this is the first book on the subject that they read. It gives me such hope! Thank you Karen and Tracy.

This Book is Our Friend.

15 people found this helpful.
 on September 5, 1999
We had read everything we could get our hands on about MPD, hoping to find something we could use both as a therapeutic source for ourselves and a resource to share with important people in our life.This book not only does just that, but most importantly, it consistantly exudes respect for the multiple as a whole as well as for each alter. Rosalee, one of the alters of one of the authors, describes various facets of living with MPD with honesty and candor. We feel that this book should be distributed like World War Two propaganda: out of low-flying airplanes, to the masses.

Basic, but well rounded

19 people found this helpful.
 on September 10, 2001
By HouseofGhosts
If you are a trauma-based multiple looking for some tips on how to develop co-consciousness or even how to communicate with the rest of those in your system, this book may be a good starting point for you. It is filled with basic exercises that should help you get a bit farther down the road.

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